I haven’t written to the blog since my review of the Hocus Pocus sequel, a review my mom had looked forward to reading but was unable to due to a lack of energy and failing health. Unfortunately after a few stays in the hospital mom lost her battle with aplastic anemia and pneumonia on Jan. 24, 2020 at 9:23 in the morning. Though it hurts to lose my mom, I am often reminded that I look just like her, what a lot don’t realize unless they knew my mom is that I take after her in other ways. One of those ways is by being a bookworm, though I admit I don’t read nearly as often as she did when she was my age. Another way, although she wasn’t a teacher she did a lot in the educational field and I became a teacher because of her. Now I am an English teacher.
My mom was always “real” or “100” as kids these days say. She was honest with students even on difficult matters but always found a positive in it thus lessening the harsher blows of reality. So I am real with students too when introducing myself at the start of the year in the “get to know you phase.” I admit to them that I have a learning disability that a few of them might have too. I tell them I am dyslexic and I am met with stares, jaw drops, and the pondering of “How can you teach us if you can’t read or write?” I of course point out that they can read and write, but that they struggle just like I did and that I am here to help them through it.
My family knew I struggled but we didn’t have a term for it for years. In the early school years I could read at my own pace and do just okay or just below okay. The biggest problem I had issues with was reading out loud. I would follow along as we were told to, silently, until it was our turn to read. However I kept stumbling over words and having to reread full sentences thus I was constantly lost. When it was my turn to read for the class I of course would read the wrong part. The kids would laugh, point, jeer; the teacher would berate me for daydreaming instead of working. Mom would get a phone call about how I wasn’t paying attention in class and that it was an ever growing problem when it came to reading. Mom just encouraged me to read more at home and thought that more practice would do me good, so we’d read together sometimes.
In middle school we used the Accelerated Reading program. This program was loaded with a bunch of reading comprehension questions for thousands of books. We would select a book each week (or more if you could) and then take a quiz over it when finished, the score would earn us grades and points to spend in the AR store that the campus put together of fun trinkets and snacks we could purchase with the points. Before we could earn points though every student needed to take a basic test to discover our reading level so that the questions would be fitting for that level. I went home the day I got my level assignment and cried. In seventh grade I was reading at a fourth grade level and I was the lowest in my class. I didn’t think there was anything amiss other than being told I didn’t try hard enough and just feeling stupid. I didn’t want to be stupid. When mom asked I explained to her my sour mood and we talked about why I think I didn’t do well enough (a question teachers typically didn’t ask back then of students) and for me it was the time constraint. This was two-fold, the countdown made me nervous and I also felt that I didn’t have enough time because of accidentally reading the same sentence repeatedly before realizing my error. Mom said she used to have the same problem but she was able to keep track with a single bookmark dragging it down the page line by line. We tried that and I would still mess up a lot so mom came up with a “window.” To block out all other lines and leave “empty” areas so the lines would wouldn’t move around on me (the lines moving was the best way I could explain what happened when I read). She did this by taking two strips of paper and taping them so that only one line of text could be read through them– and I did better! I also had no time limit at home so I could take as long as I wanted to read without upsetting anyone or feeling pressured. I didn’t do very well on my next AR quiz, but mom said to keep reading because it was the only way I’d get better. So I did. Students could checkout 2 books at a time from the school library so I did. I went to school early and stayed late so that I could have uninterrupted reading time without the hassle of siblings and chores. I did this weekly for the rest of the year and steadily my scores improved though timed quizzes still set off a panic (we didn’t know that test-anxiety was a legitimate thing yet). By the time eighth grade came around and we had to do our reading level placement test again I had gone from a fourth grade level to a high school level! My writing still needed help but that was more to do with organizing my essays and finding meaningful examples to show in words.
I had no idea that my issues with whole words or phrases seeming to move on the page was a type of dyslexia until I reached my second year at college. On the time line of things (having taken a year and half off of school after graduation) it took ten years to discover that I was dyslexic, that’s how un-diagnosed this learning disability was as I was growing up, teachers weren’t trained to look for tell-tale signs, parents did the best they could with what tools they had (like my mom creating the “window bookmark” as we used to call it; now educators call it a highlighter strip). I was in a course for future educators when we were given a quiz on how to identify possible dyslexia in students. It was then that I realized I was dyslexic.
I teach my students the highlighter strip trick for when we don’t have those strips so that they can use scratch paper on tests if they feel it helps them to see one line at a time. Of course, I do teach them other strategies I’ve learned as an educator that help with reading comprehension and time management (I will save those for a later post). The one thing that I haven’t been able to instill in the majority of my students yet is the idea that if they keep at it, it will get easier. They just don’t like to read, yet with a few I’ve gotten them to at least find digital books they’ll read from time to time or comics online that they’ll read. Attention spans are shorter, but that’s not a complete stumbling block, at tenth grade many are independent and feel if they’ve done it one way all their life then they’ll do just fine. My older brother was like this but later he found a genre and books he enjoyed when he isn’t distracted by other parts of life so I have hope for my students yet. Even I have a hard time settling down to read though I am making an attempt to be better about that. Mom always made time to read even if it was just a few pages a day on her busiest days, and she tried to keep reading in her last few weeks, but books had become heavy to hold and because she was so cold her e-reader wasn’t responding to her touch which made her frustrated, but she tried.
One of the best things I can do to feel close to mom now that she’s gone is to read, and as I read remember how she helped me become a better reader. Had I continued to read three grades below my actual grade level I never would have become a teacher. I also wouldn’t have the tools to pass to my students to help them. Mom always knew I’d become a teacher even though I had been against it for years (I wanted to be a cop) and that once I accepted it I’d be a good teacher. Yes the state test scores improve every year within our department now, but what really proves to me that mom was right was when a student finally understands a concept about reading and comprehension and then uses that new skill or tool to keep improving. They may not gain an appreciation for books but they will have an easier time understanding anything they read, social media, news, documents and forms, etc. When I read or teach I know I always have mom near by.
Now that I have reminisced about how mom turned me into a bookworm with the ability to discern what I am reading, I’d like to post some of the titles I know she read and enjoyed. Each will link to their respective websites and as I find more I will add them with my future posts.
Anne McCaffery’s Dragon Riders of Pern (series)
Rebecca Skloot’s The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks
Gregory Maguire’s Wicked
Christopher Paolini’s Eragon (series)
Peter S. Beagle’s The Last Unicorn